02-18-2025, 11:50 AM
Working with an emotion / feeling
This method can be used when a client talks about a feeling or emotion that is difficult for them.
1. Extracting emotions and building their image
Coach: Imagine that you are taking this feeling out of yourself and putting it on the table in front of you, what does this feeling look like?
Client: e.g.:
swirling black clouds,
a dark box,
a cube with a changing shape,
etc.
Coach: Describe it to me in detail:
What shape is it?
What colour is it?
What texture does it have?
Client: A dark, rough box that is small, but I find it hard to look at.
Coach: If this box could talk, what would it say to you?
Client: [answer]
Coach: What would you say to it?
Client: [answer]
2. Looking for the good side of this feeling
Coach: What can you do with ... (e.g. this box) so that it is not so ... (e.g. scary, overwhelming - we use the client's words)?
Client: [answer]
Coach: How can this ... (e.g. box) ... (e.g. change shape, colour, form etc.) to be something useful to you?
Client: [answer]
Coach: What does ... (e.g. the box) say to you now that it is ... (e.g. a different shape, colour etc.)?
Client: [answer]
3. "Personality integration"
Coach: When this ... (e.g. box) is already ... (e.g. colourful, pleasant, soft to the touch etc.), take it from this table and accept it back into yourself.
How do you feel about this?
What did this give you?
What can you do now to use this for yourself?
Client: [answer]
4. Summary
Coach: Next time this feeling comes up, do this visualization yourself, take the feeling out of yourself, turn it into something more friendly and take it back into yourself.
What do you think about it?
This method can be used when a client talks about a feeling or emotion that is difficult for them.
1. Extracting emotions and building their image
Coach: Imagine that you are taking this feeling out of yourself and putting it on the table in front of you, what does this feeling look like?
Client: e.g.:
swirling black clouds,
a dark box,
a cube with a changing shape,
etc.
Coach: Describe it to me in detail:
What shape is it?
What colour is it?
What texture does it have?
Client: A dark, rough box that is small, but I find it hard to look at.
Coach: If this box could talk, what would it say to you?
Client: [answer]
Coach: What would you say to it?
Client: [answer]
2. Looking for the good side of this feeling
Coach: What can you do with ... (e.g. this box) so that it is not so ... (e.g. scary, overwhelming - we use the client's words)?
Client: [answer]
Coach: How can this ... (e.g. box) ... (e.g. change shape, colour, form etc.) to be something useful to you?
Client: [answer]
Coach: What does ... (e.g. the box) say to you now that it is ... (e.g. a different shape, colour etc.)?
Client: [answer]
3. "Personality integration"
Coach: When this ... (e.g. box) is already ... (e.g. colourful, pleasant, soft to the touch etc.), take it from this table and accept it back into yourself.
How do you feel about this?
What did this give you?
What can you do now to use this for yourself?
Client: [answer]
4. Summary
Coach: Next time this feeling comes up, do this visualization yourself, take the feeling out of yourself, turn it into something more friendly and take it back into yourself.
What do you think about it?